Str8Curious: Crushing On An Onlyfans Star? Here'S What To Do!

Hey There, Curious Crush: An OnlyFans Dilemma

Welcome back to Str8Curious, the monthly AskMen column where lifestyle guru Joey Skladany, our out-and-proud expert, tackles the juiciest questions from straight guys diving into sex, dating, and the LGBTQ+ community. No topic is too steamy or taboo as Joey serves up candid advice, shatters stereotypes, and keeps it real - or, shall we say, fabulously frank. Got a burning question? Slide into Joey’s DMs on Instagram or drop him a line at joeyskladanywrites@gmail.com - anonymity guaranteed!

This month, we’ve got a reader who’s caught feelings for a guy with a spicy side hustle. Let’s dive into the drama and see if we can help him navigate this flirty yet tricky territory.

The Heart of the Matter: A Crush with a Camera

Our reader, Luke from Grand Rapids, MI, is dipping his toes into bicuriosity and recently started dating a guy he’s totally vibing with. But here’s the plot twist: his new flame just dropped the bombshell that he’s an OnlyFans creator. Talk about a curveball! Luke admits this revelation flipped his view of the guy, and he’s wondering if he’s being too old-school for not embracing it. He’s torn - especially since it doesn’t seem like his crush is ready to hang up the camera anytime soon.

Now, Luke’s not alone in feeling a little thrown off by this. Dating someone in adult content creation can stir up all kinds of emotions, from curiosity to insecurity. So, is he wrong for having reservations, or is this just a matter of personal boundaries?

“It’s okay to have limits, but don’t close the door too soon - a little honesty with your crush might just spice things up in ways you didn’t expect,” says Joey Skladany, offering a wink of encouragement.

Joey’s Take: Boundaries, Babe, and a Bit of Boldness

Joey’s quick to clarify that Luke isn’t outdated - let’s save ‘old-fashioned’ for vintage cocktails and quaint oatmeal brands, shall we? Instead, Joey calls it self-awareness, and he’s all about respecting personal comfort zones. If the idea of dating someone who does adult content - whether it’s solo cam sessions or something more intense - doesn’t sit right with you, that’s perfectly fine. Monogamy, boundaries, and dealbreakers are yours to define.

That said, Joey urges Luke not to ghost this guy just yet. Have a heart-to-heart, ask the tough questions: Can he separate emotions from his work? What kind of content is he creating? Is he open to exclusivity, or does he lean toward open relationships? These answers could be the key to figuring out if this connection has legs - or if it’s time to swipe left on this particular dynamic.

And hey, who knows? If the feelings are strong enough, Luke might find himself intrigued by this bold career choice. Joey’s not saying you need to join the OnlyFans game, but there’s something undeniably hot about a partner who owns their sexuality so confidently.

Understanding the Why Behind the Work

Before making any snap judgments, Joey suggests taking a step back to understand why some gay, bi, or pan men dive into platforms like OnlyFans. For some, it’s a quick way to stack cash - a tempting gig in a world where financial stability isn’t always guaranteed. For others, it’s about the thrill of the performance or simply loving the attention that comes with it.

Then there are those who might feel this is their only path, which can be a heavier reality. But Joey’s clear: it’s not Luke’s job to ‘rescue’ anyone or mold them into something they’re not. Trying to change someone to fit your vision is a one-way ticket to heartbreak city.

Ultimately, compatibility is a puzzle that takes time to piece together. Whether it’s a matter of weeks, months, or years, don’t rush yourself into anything that doesn’t feel right. Trust your gut, keep the convo flirty yet honest, and you might just find a balance that works - or realize it’s time to move on to the next crush.