Dear Vix: Help! My Girlfriend’S On Onlyfans And I’M Losing It!

Caught Off Guard: A Relationship Shocker

Hey there, lovebirds and curious minds! We’ve got a juicy dilemma straight from a reader’s heart in today’s Dear Vix column. Picture this: you’re chilling at the pub with your mates when one of them drops a bombshell - your girlfriend’s got an OnlyFans account. Talk about a plot twist!

Our reader, who signs off as ‘Shocked and Disgusted,’ is reeling from the discovery. They’ve only been dating a few months, and now they’re grappling with feelings of embarrassment and betrayal. Why didn’t she tell them? And more importantly, can they handle their partner being on a platform like OnlyFans?

It’s not about the content - apparently, it’s pretty tame - but the mere existence of the account feels like a personal blow. They’re worried about what friends and family might think and have even demanded she shut it down or risk the relationship. Yikes, that’s a tough ultimatum!

Dear Vix Weighs In: Boundaries or Control?

Victoria Richards, our fabulous agony aunt at The Independent, doesn’t hold back with her response. She gets the sting of betrayal - finding out secondhand is never fun - but she’s quick to call out the reader for what she sees as shaming behavior. That word ‘confess’ they used? It’s loaded with judgment, and Vix isn’t here for it.

‘I feel for your shock, but let’s be real - demanding she quits OnlyFans isn’t setting a boundary; it’s trying to set a rule. True boundaries are about what you can handle, not what you can control,’

Vix advises, urging a deeper look at why this bothers them so much.

She points out that contempt is a relationship killer, and there’s a whiff of it in the reader’s tone. Plus, isn’t it her choice? Vix reminds us that many women, famous or not, turn to platforms like OnlyFans to take charge of their finances and reclaim agency over their bodies. It’s a bold move in a world that often objectifies without consent.

Celebrity Spotlight: OnlyFans as Empowerment

Speaking of bold moves, Vix brings up some high-profile names who’ve jumped on the OnlyFans bandwagon. Take Lily Allen, for instance, who joined last year to share pics of her feet - cheekily captioning her profile ‘Just dipping my toes in.’ She’s even said it earns her more than her music on Spotify. Talk about a side hustle!

Then there’s Kate Nash, who’s using the platform to sell bum pics while highlighting the tough financial realities artists face. For her, it’s all about agency and shining a light on rising costs in the industry. These celebs are flipping the script, and Vix wonders if our reader can see that perspective.

Ultimately, it’s not about what others think - family, friends, or otherwise. Vix challenges the reader to focus on their own feelings. Can they stay in the relationship if she keeps her account? That’s the million-dollar question.

Final Advice: Talk It Out, Don’t Tune Out

Vix’s bottom line? Communication is key. She’d want to hear her partner’s concerns if she were in the girlfriend’s shoes, but condemnation and ultimatums? That’s a fast track to pushing someone away. Instead, she urges the reader to unpack why this is such a trigger for them.

What do their feelings say about their views on women and independence? It’s okay to be bothered, but it’s on them to figure out how much - and whether they can move past it. Vix’s advice is clear: start with an honest, open chat before making any rash decisions.

For now, this digital age romance is at a crossroads. Will love win, or will OnlyFans be the ultimate dealbreaker? Drop your thoughts below, and if you’ve got your own love woes, email dearvix@independent.co.uk for a dose of Vix’s wisdom!